I get migraines - a lot.
Some are worse than others, and are often fixed for the time being with one of my magic pills bought at CVS Pharmacy (Claira"s Very Special Pharmacy - it's an inside joke). These are special magic pills the doctor prescribes for me.
The biggest thing I've learned from these experiences has nothing to do with medicine, diet or such. I've learned how I want to be treated when people find this out.
It might sound immature, simple and rather weak... but all I'm looking for is some sympathy. Almost every dietician I know has tried to tell me what it is - and I've gone 6 weeks without certain foods to try and help this plague of mine. I probably didn't do it right, but I tried my best, and in the end, again took the poisoned pill that heals.
I'm 20 years into migraines now. I know a lot about them. I know they are not all created equal, and my migraines are not like yours or someone elses you know. In fact, as debilitating as they are, I think that mine are no where near as bad as others that have been described to me.
No one has the quick fix for all migraines, and when you have one, someone telling you that you don't need to have them if you follow their advice only serves to make the experience worse.
So when I hear someone has a migraine, I say something like: "Oh I wish you a very "still" kind of day, where you don't have to move or think. And may it pass quickly."
Just today a fellow suffer returned this kind of sympathy, and then in such a kind way shared what she has tried. It was wonderful.
I suspect there are many ailments and life conditions that we would do well to try a similar approach. As Christians, and health message Christians in particular, we must first love the person where they are, and help them where they are before we can even begin to think about how they can help themselves. Otherwise, believe me, it comes off as judgement, which on its own has ever helped anybody.